𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐝𝐨 𝐰𝐞 𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐝𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐫, 𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐥𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐅𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬?
This is a question I have been reflecting on these past few months.
Growing up, I believed that the longer I know someone, the better we are as friends.
So my focus was often on making friendships last. To give them a sense of permanence.
This past weekend, I was challenged to think differently. To get a whole new perspective on Friendship.
Turns out that, the same question was brewing in the mind of another friend too.
When she posed this question to the larger group who’d gathered for Game-night at my place, I listened intently, curious to hear the perspectives in the room.
The questions and thoughts that were shared next, blew my mind!
- Do friendships have to last long? Or be permanent? for them to be meaningful?
- What if a temporary friendship was the road to permanence?
- What if the permanence of your friendship lies in the FEELING you get every time you meet your friend? And not in how often you connect?
- What if losing control of all outcomes and expectations, only allows your friendship to go deeper, even thrive?
Listening to each one of these questions and answering them for myself, helped me gain so much clarity!
I am learning that Friendships are like the Seasons in a year.
Every season is temporary — it only lasts the duration it’s meant for.
Yet, seasons by their very nature are permanent.
It’s not about how long your friendship lasts, but how deeply you enjoy it while it does.
It’s about creating Moments of Meaning in the time you spend together.
These Moments are often created by;
- Finding your common interests and passions;
- Engaging in meaningful conversations;
- Sharing your thoughts, feelings, and emotions;
- Living new experiences, together.
It’s about saying HELL YES to each other while creating new memories together.
So grateful to have friends who teach me more about Friendship, every day!